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I've seen a mixed bag of this. There are times when I see people being "rude". However, I've seen far more instances of situations when people are quite courteous.
I can recall of times I've shifted over for a couple to sit together, given up a seat for someone with a cane or given up my seat so that a parent can sit with their child(ren).
Posted on: 2014/8/19 20:15
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haha. sorry Azul, I dont beleive in such a thing. Not saying I'm right, just that I dont believe in them.
Posted on: 2014/8/19 19:13
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When did children make it onto the list of priority seating? When I was a kid in the 70s, my dad made me offer my seat to any grownup, regardless of their age or physical stamina. Worked for me, I hated sitting still.
Now, I see people giving up their seats for kids. On the one hand: somebody actually gave up his seat! On the other hand: hell no.
Posted on: 2014/8/19 19:05
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What about service cats?
Posted on: 2014/8/19 18:48
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I'm sorry that you feel awkward when someone offers you a simple courtesy. If they don't want the seat, they typically smile and say no thank you, and we both go about our business. The fact that this bothers you so much says to me that you're unaccustomed to acting in a civil way. I'm sure your mother would be very pleased.
Posted on: 2014/8/19 18:26
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exactly. there are two types of service dogs, police k-9s and seeing eye dogs. end of story.
Posted on: 2014/8/19 17:26
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When it becomes the norm that men wear high heels, I'll start offering my seat to them.
Posted on: 2014/8/19 17:13
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Traditional etitquette? So you're not doing something because it makes sense, you're doing it because other people used it to do it in the past? The logic there is not sound.. since we know there are lots of past traditions that would be unnecessary or even unsavory. And how does it "work for you" if you are surprising women by doing this? Did it occur to you that they don't want your seat charity and might only take it in order to end an awkward situation?
Posted on: 2014/8/19 16:51
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All service vests are "fake". There is no such thing as an official service vest, or an "official" service dog designation. It's all one big scam, really. As of today, there are no requirements for licensing, certification or identification of service dogs. And, the animals are not required to wear special collars, vests or harnesses. This is a huge, glaring hole in the ADA laws.
Posted on: 2014/8/19 16:36
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She doesn't NEED to sit; traditional etiquette is that a gentleman doesn't sit while a lady stands. I admit it may be an outdated construct, but I'll stick with what works for me. And, also, whatever; there are a lot bigger issues than this to worry about.
Posted on: 2014/8/19 14:31
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Put this sign up and you'll certainly get people that have the dogs with fake service vests trying to sit down.
Posted on: 2014/8/19 14:04
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So, you tell me. Why would an able bodied, young women need to sit?
Posted on: 2014/8/19 13:34
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Judging from the comments here, you're right; it's every man/woman for himself on public transportation. Thanks for clearing that up, and I'll turn up the volume on my headphones so everyone within 10 feet can hear it.
Posted on: 2014/8/19 13:04
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Or people that want seats can just ask for them.
Posted on: 2014/8/19 2:28
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Maybe we need some better VERY LARGE etiquette signs displayed in the PATH - In your face signs that state - ARE YOU DISABLED OR PREGNANT to be sitting in these seats ?
Maybe the seat remains permanently upright and needs to be activated via a ticket - If not in use, it will create more standing space. The image should be screen printed or embroidered into the seat and back rest - The only exemption would be for parents with small children
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Yup, that's your outdated social conditioning at work. It's fun to fluster young women? That's kinda creepy.. It's a new experience for them because there's no good reason that young women need to sit on a train.
Posted on: 2014/8/19 0:47
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Re: "Baby on Board" stickers (See quote below)
What an awesome idea!!! Wear the sticker (or a button) if you are pregnant and want a seat. If you do, I guarantee you'll get a seat every time from guys who are otherwise terrified of making a mistake or just would prefer not to give up their seat to a non-pregnant person. And then if you don't wear the sticker, it's really hard to complain... From the article: Meanwhile, Freeman is also asking that stickers be passed out saying "Baby on Board" for pregnant women to wear, because sometimes it isn't obvious, especially in the winter when people are wearing coats, she said.
Posted on: 2014/8/18 19:39
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I twice offered my seat to a women who I thought were definitely pregnant and NOPE. Ouch! To avoid these circumstances, I think I'd just avoid taking a seat at all if I didn't have a really serious leg injury.
Posted on: 2014/8/18 19:28
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I twice offered my seat to a women who I thought were definitely pregnant and NOPE. Ouch! To avoid these circumstances, I think I'd just avoid taking a seat at all if I didn't have a really serious leg injury.
Posted on: 2014/8/18 19:28
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Last Friday on the extremely rare occasion that I'm able to take a seat home from work, the woman sitting next to me stood up just after departing Christopher St and gave her seat to a pregnant woman. The first words out of her mother were "All these men pretending to be sleeping or reading couldn't have offered a woman in need a seat, pathetic." Hmm, f*ck me, I actually was reading, or maybe I was PRETENDING... and the guy across from me was asleep... or was he PRETENDING to be asleep? I definitely felt singled out, like now I'm an asshole for not standing up at every stop to scan the crowd for bulging bellies. It's all a big conspiracy, everybody with their heads down pretending away so we can go about with our selfish ways.
Posted on: 2014/8/18 17:25
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No, when it happens to me, I say "thank you" and sit down. Why make someone feel bad for doing a good deed? If you make an issue of it, the next time the lady really could be pregnant but he could be second-guessing his judgment. Ianmac, as for people asking and being denied a seat, in all my years of PATH commuting, I've only witnessed one incident in which someone asked for a seat (described in my earlier post) and she wasn't denied. I daresay, people on the PATH are actually more courteous than on the subway. Most of the time, I DO see someone offering a seat to a pregnant lady or the elderly. The times it doesn't happen is when the train is so packed, the people who are sitting can't see. I take the 34th St. crosstown bus from time to time because all my doctors are affiliated with NYU, and I think the passengers there are far more inconsiderate than on the PATH. Because of the hospital and doctors' offices around 1st Ave, you'll see a lot of elderly, infirm and pregnant people getting on the bus. I've seen people deliberately ignore the bus driver and other passengers asking them to give up their seats to an old person with a walker or a very pregnant woman. They'll literally stare straight ahead with a blank look.
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Women who are obviously pregnant never refuse when offer them my seat, but most other women (elderly included) say no when I offer. So then I feel weird about it and hope I haven't offended them by incorrectly guessing on their age range.
Posted on: 2014/8/18 14:12
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I was coming home from a huge dinner one night, and rested my hand on my aching, too-full belly. dude immediately jumped up and offered me his seat. is it bad that I took it?
Posted on: 2014/8/18 13:46
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A lot of people who are currently in their child bearing years are narcissists who think the world revolves around them. I suspect most of the time pregnant women are on the train, nobody has actually noticed that they are pregnant. I would be more interested in knowing how many people have asked for a seat and then been denied.
Posted on: 2014/8/18 13:43
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Age isn't the first thing that runs through my mind when this happens. It's "oh crap, this dude thinks I look pregnant."
Posted on: 2014/8/18 13:13
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Maybe it's my age, but I still feel weird sitting on the train when ladies of any age are standing. Plus, it's kind of fun to watch a 23-year-old girl get all flustered when she's offered a seat. It's such a new experience for most of them that they don't know how to react.
Posted on: 2014/8/18 12:56
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I don't like sitting on PATH but on the rare occasions that I do I will offer my seat to older people, pregnant ladies etc. I do feel a bit weird about offering my seat to women who maybe aren't really old. It's almost like they get offended like you're calling them old.
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Maybe the first three seats should remain upright position and can only be activated (dropped) by the bus driver for those that request it from the driver on boarding!
As for the trains, maybe a select few seats remain upright and can only be activated (seat drops) with a special pass that can be bought with proof of disability - These passes could be temporary or permanent, depending on the individuals situation. I've been on a train when a person starting yelling for a guy to give up his seat in a disabled seating section. The guy raise his shirt and we all stared at a 10 inch scar running down his chest - You could hear a pin drop after that display !
Posted on: 2014/8/18 2:59
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Calm down Mother Teresa, I don't take the bus and had no idea. Quote:
thank you, it was an honest question from a non-bus rider
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