Does anyone know a good hall to have a desi (indian/pakisani) reception/ruksati (sp?)?? We need a place that can serve halal food as well. I'm hoping to find someone with firsthand experience at a really nice place.

Any advice is appreciated.

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Sorry for the longish post. First off, hats off to Heights and the other, albeit endangered species of, gentlemen. The countless men, including those who are older and grew up in the time when it was commonplace (if not almost mandatory) to teach "chivalrous" behavior, who seem to have completely forgotten those manners completely astound me. Many times, I have been on the verge of asking one of these guys "Just how long have you lived here before the 'gentleman' was beaten out of you?"

Elvis, your anti-chivalry argument is not without some thought. We live in a different world from our parents and, for some, it is a woman's choice to work, put in a hard day, and struggle with the demands of doing so just like a man. Likewise, for the remainder of the working women, it is a requirement for a myriad of reasons (single mom, deadbeat husband/boyfriend, or their significant other who doesn't quite earn enough to make ends meet). Either way, their workaday struggle is the same. However, where your point (and that of the person you quoted) lacks merit is that working women are NOT equal to working men. Women don't earn equal pay and frequently get passed over for jobs and promotions (sometimes just because of the biological *ability* to become pregnant and subsequently be a presumed liability to the company). Also, although the trend is starting where husbands put in nearly as much time at home as their wives do, most husbands (even those who consider themselves "enlightened") do not, after as full a day as their wives, have the added responsibility of putting together dinner, straightening up the house, helping with homework, bathing little ones, putting them to bed, and staying up with them all night if they are sick only to drag themselves into work the next day. Until the pendulum swings closer to the middle and equality is an actuality instead of a notion, chivalry truly should continue.

And, lastly, to RacerX...I don't know if your remarks were simply just to get a rise out of people or if that is how you truly feel but, whatever. With your logic about choosing the lifestyle, it could be argued that people choose to become old or remain handicapped by not committing suicide (sorry, just trying to underscore the absurdity of his "point"). The basic rule of thumb, and this goes for every one of us, is "how would we want others to treat our wives, girlfriends, mothers, sisters, daughters, our elderly relatives?" If you, RacerX, would not choose to perpetuate the human race (and, believe me, we all thank you), what if one of your female relatives did? And what if she was treated the way YOU treat the "pregos"?I believe that any one of us would pop someone in the face (or really, really want to) if they disrespected someone we care about. Likewise, as per the topic at hand, it doesn't make it okay just because we don't personally know the person we are disrepecting.

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I didn't know my personal opinion was promoted to the title of "propaganda"; i'm more powerful than i thought!

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then kwicherbichin'! i didn't realize that this board should only pander to YOUR interests. perhaps your utter lack of understanding of the link between local politics and your recalcitrant "grievances" should hit you upside the head

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so you can't take an active role in local politics? if you're eligible, then register for cryin' out loud! If you're not, like a good friend of mine, then volunteer for the campaigns of potential councilmembers, mayors, etc., in order to make an effort to change things, or join a group of activists who are working for a local cause you agree with.

Otherwise, just admit you don't care and, if you don't care, you can't complain.

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yeah, and not how holding a government position might greatly influence one's vote on important issues directly affecting their constituency...

i've been at many city council meetings where some of the councilpeople's votes (and accompanying explanations for said votes) were absolutely transparent and infuriating!

Steve has felt this way at least since his campaign for councilman so to call this "grandstanding" for a potential mayoral run is nothing but hot air coming from people scared of losing their cushy positions (and their votes against this proposal won't be "transparent", either!)

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my mind is blown.

if a politician screws up, it's business as usual.

if s/he does something good/productive, it's grandstanding/building a base for future office.

can any politician EVER do anything right?

i don't understand how you can see this as "nothing more than using a bad sitaution to gain personal acclaim". isn't this exactly what our public servants are supposed to do?...hold people accountable and make efforts for change?

if steve has "greater ambitions", more power to him and i'll be first in line to volunteer for his campaign. i've seen him in action, and we need people like him in higher levels of office.

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no, dan, you're the only one who cares.

we all know what your "opinion" is going to be; i'm not waiting with bated breath for THAT post.

with your impatient foot-tapping, i can't help but think of you like a teacher who takes points off an assignment for being "late". the whole full-time-job/public-service thing just MAY cut into his online time, but i'm sure you'll give that no consideration when you rip him a new one for not posting in what you consider a timely manner, no matter what the content of the letter.

but you keep telling us how objective you are...

Quote: yes, how very sad that he doesn't care about his constituents so he makes a point about holding higher officials accountable for the lack of safety in our city. how very sad that he be upset about the number of murders, other violent crimes, drugs and guns in our city and try to make people THINK about ways to solve the problem and to not pass the buck or basically say "it's not our fault...there's nothing we can do". i wish he cared about us more... all he is saying is that something is really wrong and that someone should be held accountable. we've all seen that it's the case in nearly all situations that it's the top people making the critical decisions but the lower rung that gets the boot when it doesn't work. it's not his area of expertise to "solve" the policing/crime problem. that would be like someone off the street coming in to YOUR job and saying, "hey, you're not making that burger right...and you forgot to ask if he wants fries with that".

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she DOES know...the argument lies in whether or not she should pay over $100 bucks for something she didn't do. would you?

the "stress" lies in knowing when you are being swindled and demanding to see the proof they claim to have, knowing either the tape itself doesn't exist or it's a case of mistaken identity.

they know after they tow your car that you need it back right away and will pay handsomely for it. it's like they're collecting ransom.

the issue that i'm concerned about is that a receipt in and of itself would not be sufficient proof that she did not go to the mall before or after. the burden would, and should, be on the towing company to provide the video.

when she told the manager (who claimed to be the only one there usually) that she was going to get a lawyer, he told her "go ahead". they do not appear to be threatened by the thought of a lawyer being involved; i'm assuming they don't think she'll actually do it.

as an aside, i've come in contact with a lot of people (okay, men) associated with the automotive industry who believe they can intimidate female customers. i had an experience once with a horrifically rude mechanic that i KNOW would not have happened to, say, my father.

i may be off here, but to me this is the work of a "bully".

has anyone else had this problem? a coworker of mine had her car towed from the shoprite parking lot because the towing company claimed he had video cameras there and saw her park her car and go to jcpenney at the mall. when she told him she did not, in fact, go to jcpenney and asked to see said video tape, he refused to show her the tape and became beligerent. he charged her $80 for the towing, $20 as a "storage fee", and another $20 for getting the car on the tow truck.

she's getting a lawyer involved but this screams scam to me...anyone else?

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i literally almost fell off my chair laughing...