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Go PATH !
Posted on: 2009/8/7 17:28
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During my pregnancy I actually never wanted a seat on the train... not until the very end at least. During my initial months, I was so nauseous that the slightest whiff of B.O., morning breath, or cigarette smoke made me want to barf. I didn't want to be close to other people at all. One time this well-meaning middle-aged man insisted I take his seat... I just grinned and beared it.
For me though, It makes me feel good to be nice to someone else and give them my seat. Whether they be old, preggers, injured, with a child... what have you. I sometimes feel that I'm the one who gets the benefit. "Yes, I am young! I am healthy! and I am being thoughtful!... go me!"
Posted on: 2009/8/7 16:33
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Compared to the NYC subway, the PATH is paradise.
Posted on: 2009/8/7 16:20
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that's what the ferry is for!
Posted on: 2009/8/7 15:33
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LOL Too bad there isn't a 1st class section, I would gladly pay 2x the price to be away from the plebs.
Posted on: 2009/8/7 15:10
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That certainly was MY motivation!
Posted on: 2009/8/7 15:02
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Yeah, but what about all these women who get pregnant just so that they can more easily get a seat on the PATH?
Posted on: 2009/8/7 14:52
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+1.. well said for the poster above me... you hit 'reply' under the post you want to quote, and then you hit the quote button on the next page that loads. just make sure you type the response underneath the quoted message, otherwise it will get confusing to the people reading it.
Posted on: 2009/8/7 14:45
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don't know how to quote but right on wayne!
Posted on: 2009/8/7 14:40
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Oh, yes, that WSJ/nap thing was very popular the summers I was pregnant. Two summer babies. They couldn't even say that they didn't see that nine month belly under a coat.
Posted on: 2009/8/7 14:03
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Interesting, so certain types of employment, and dishelved folks determine when seats will be given up kind of a head scracher. It's funny though and I'm not that surprised how the corporate world tunes out the needs for others. I for one when boarding the 33rd. St. bound train prior to Hoboken on the weekend will always get a seat but wonder which woman I will give the seat up to when arriving in Hoboken by then the seats are all taken. I was taught by my mother to do so and I bet those blue collar / thugs were as well.
Posted on: 2009/8/7 13:16
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A decade or so when i was livivng in hoboken, my big giant pregnant self would wobble onto the train after a long day at work on my feet and every WSJ or voice would suddenly become so interesting that it needed to be read mere inches from their noses. it pissed me off terribly. did their mothers raise them to be like that? I noticed a big difference when i started riding the jsq path. which coincided with my 2nd pregnancy. All the construction guys, and "blue collar", even the thugy looking kids are so much kinder to preggars and little kids etc in this town. IMO.
Posted on: 2009/8/7 12:51
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Wearing high heels is a conscious decision that women make ... so I would absolutely never stand on a Path train because I saw a women walking in all wobbly from the high heels. If it doesn't make you comfortable, then don't wear the damn things. Nobody told you to wear those. That being said, I generally am a gentleman, just because it was how I was raised.
What gets me is that all these women wear high heels that add 3 or 4 inches to their height, when it is the WOMEN who want the MEN to be tall. Why the hell aren't we, the men, wearing shoes that make us taller! Strange world...LOL.
Posted on: 2009/8/7 12:19
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They sure did. I'll still give up my seat and hold the doors open, though. Because they still go through shit I will never have to, including but not limited to childbirth.
Posted on: 2009/8/7 11:49
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I don't believe anyone here can dispute that helping another fellow human being out is a good thing for society. Whether simply offering a seat up to a pregnant woman, or one carrying a baby, or moving over to allow a young child to simply stand in the front car to enjoy the view from the window....it's everyone's duty as a citizen of humanity to try to be nice to each other, because kindness is infectious, as is nastiness. SO the less nastiness the better for all involved.
Now, on a safety front, pregnant women and fathers/mothers holding small children are already off-balance. Do you really want to contribute to one of them possibly falling, hurting themselves, the child, or the unborn baby when the train jerks about? Simply because you were self-righteously thinking 'bout equality or whether the child is riding free vs. your paid fare?? If an adult male is holding a large, unwieldy package on his torso, (similar to a pregnant woman is) then I would hope that a fellow rider might offer his seat up, as would I, to anyone I see might need some help. Let's not take it all to the women VS men talk, it's not really the point, is it? (for the record, although I always declined because I never really needed the seat, I rode the PATH throughout my pregnancy, rarely being offered a seat, or a pole to hold on to. The handful of times I was offered, was USUALLY by a woman and usually they mentioned they had children, so they were also mothers.) Just because some folks decided to have children, and others did not, is not the point, with child, or childless, we need to think of how we can contribute to the overall happiness and wellbeing of our society, and not try to take on 'tit for tat' or 'not my problem' attitudes.
Posted on: 2009/8/7 11:47
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Don't fathers get leave under Family Whatever Act?
Posted on: 2009/8/7 11:40
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OH no. oh no. Do not even go there. Finally a sane person shows up. I almost did a double take, like I read his post wrong. If anything, Iwitness is closer to the truth. I was just pointing out the opportunities are out there. Yes, the ladies haven't gotten full equality just yet, but we are making strides. To imply they have it better because of alimony and maternity leave is off-the-mark. Iwitness, I see your point and its valid, but you have to admit, 50 years ago, women had it much worse.
Posted on: 2009/8/7 11:37
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OH no. oh no. Do not even go there. The only reason men don't get maternity leave is because they do not give birth and cannot breast feed. And you know what? The 6 weeks we women do get IS NOT ENOUGH. In Sweden both parents get leave... I think women get a year and men get 6 months (don't quote me... it's something like that). In our country, it's about $$$$ so women are forced back to work way too soon. Babies are left with strangers. It sucks. Recovering from child birth takes time. Taking care of a newborn is exhausting. Don't ever think maternity leave is some sort gift women get... it is barely adequate. And yes, having a child is a choice and well worth it, but it is not easy. I WISH my husband was allowed paternity leave... but only to help me out!
Posted on: 2009/8/7 11:32
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When I was pregnant, men rarely offered me a seat. It was usually the women. I'm having a tough time understanding all this hostility to doing the right thing by people who cannot move fast enough knock other people out of the way to get a seat on the train - whether it be because of pregnancy, crutches, or advanced age. (You'll note I didn't say high heels.)
Posted on: 2009/8/7 11:23
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LOL yeah that settles it, two of the nine members of our country's Supreme Court are women (as of tomorrow's swearing in). That's proof that gender equality has been achieved, and no imbalances exist.
Funny how you chose the word "ample" instead of "equal" in describing the opportunities available to women. Ample, as in "enough." According to?
Posted on: 2009/8/7 11:20
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no they aren't treated equally. Its called alimony. Its called maternity leave. Why shouldn't a father be allowed to help with his new born child.
Posted on: 2009/8/7 11:14
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The proof is all around you. We dont need an amendment to prove we are all equal, just look at all the women in the work force, our secretary of state, our most recent supreme court judge. You seriously think women don't have ample opportunity in this country?
No chip, I just feel if women are going to take us to task for not standing, they should be held equally accountable.
Posted on: 2009/8/7 11:11
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So men and women weren't all equal prior to laws that went into effect to declare and protect that equality? I think your argument cuts both ways. Sure, on paper, there is gender equality. In practice, there's a long, long way to go, despite all the progress that's been made. "Equality" is pretty ephemeral. So as a dude, I have absolutely no problem holding a door open, letting a woman off first, or giving up my seat to a pregnant or disabled rider before a woman has a chance to offer hers. Maybe it's just how my momma and daddy done raised me. Why the chip on the shoulder about it?
Posted on: 2009/8/7 11:11
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Where is the proof we are all equal? As far as I was told the ERA was never ratified. I just don't act like a gentleman because when I'm on the path with around 40 pounds of equipment people aren't even nice enough to try to move out of the way let alone give me a seat.
Posted on: 2009/8/7 11:07
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it's not about equality. it's about manners, across both sexes. if you see someone who could use that seat more than you could, why not offer it up? whether it's a man or a woman. Well the idea that men need to give up their seat harkens back to the days before we were all equal, and thats all I am saying. I fully agree its about manners, and I would happily give my seat up to a preggers or a old person, but so should an able bodied woman. Thats all I am saying. Its not all on guys shoulders.
Posted on: 2009/8/7 10:59
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You seem to notice. Jus' sayin'.
Posted on: 2009/8/7 10:59
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Yes, other women notice the shoes themselves, but men notice the way they make you walk. ![]()
Posted on: 2009/8/7 10:51
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Well, quite frankly I have no idea why (or how) women wear ridiculous high heels. Especially when walking or train riding is included in their day. Nobody notices your shoes except other women!!!! ![]()
Posted on: 2009/8/7 10:48
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Wow this thread has really gone off the rails. I thought this was an open letter to our path nemesis, not a forum to b*tch about equal rights & seating privileges of pregnant women.
If only someone would post about dog-sh*t and then we could really tie together all that unites us Jersey City Folk...
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